Stop Reacting and Start Responding

• Do you react and yell when misbehavior you thought had been resolved shows up again? Learn two parenting beliefs about misbehavior that cause you to think your toddler or child is disobeying you. See how your child truly views things so you can be calm and firm instead. See pgs. 17 and 49.

Chapter 1: Behavior 1. Battle of Wills
2. Lying
3. New Attitude ~ It's Not Just a Song
4. One More Chance ~ What a Child Hears
5. Repetition ~ Frustration for Two
6. Either/Or ~ Reminder-Choice
7. Shyness
8. Stopping Mean Words
9. Waking Up
10. Yelling ~ Acting on a Misconception
Chapter 2: Choices
11. Choices ~ Threats Not Included
12. "Do It Now!" ~ Demand or Empower?
13. Choosing Not to Choose
14. Endless Negotiations
15. Lightening the Mood
Chapter 3: Feelings
16. Apologies
17. Attention ~ Yelling Can Be Yummy
18. Birthdays ~ Teaching Gratefulness
19. Bossiness ~ Important for the Future
20. Bossy & The Screamer ~ Aha for Two
21. Discipline Consciously ~ S.T.R.R.
22. Control ~ A Yoga Ball Lesson
23. Hospitals ~ Truth, Trust, Courage
24. I'm Mad
25. Insincere Apologies
26. Deep Breathing
27. Tantrums
28. "It's Too Hard!"
29. Tone of Voice
30. What's Wrong?
31. Whining
Chapter 4: Frustration
32. A Playroom
33. Band-Aid Pha
34. "Yuck" ~ Conquering Food Avoidance
35. "Don't Get Out of Bed Again!"
36. End of the Day
37. "How Was School?"
38.Hush~Can't You See I'm Talking
39. Inside Voice
40. Modeling ~ This Isn't "Project Runway"
41. Practicing Reading ~ Easy and Fun?
42. Relaxing ~ Try Giving to Get Some
43. Talking Too Loud
44. Thank You Notes
45. Time for Bed
46. Tired of Reminding
47. Walking Rules
48. "Why'd You Do That?"
Chapter 5: Grandparents
49. Contact by Phone ~ Meeting the Face
50. Things To Do ~ Family Bonding
51. Watching the Kids ~ Use My Rules
Chapter 6: Learning
52. Mistakes
53. Mistakes ~ Tender Teaching
54. "Need to Go Potty?" ~ What He Hears
Chapter 7: Out in Public
55. Begging for Stuff
56. Communicating
57. Correcting
58. "Everyone's Staring!"
59. Cooperation ~ At a Restaurant?
Chapter 8: Power Struggles
60. "Do Not Argue!" ~ Who Goes First?
61."Freeze!" ~ It's Not Just a Game
62. Questioning ~ Stopping a Power Struggle
Chapter 9: Reacting
63. Calm to Furious
64. Don't. You. Dare. Say. That.
65. "Hurry Up!"
66. Saying "Stop It!"
67. Taking Responsibility
68. Think Before You Act
69. Warnings ~ Two Children, Two Types
70. When Annoyed ~ That's Your Moment
Chapter 10: Real Life
71. A Parent's True Job
72. Difficult Days
73. Chores
74. Family Dinners
75. Punishment or Discipline
76. Reconnecting
77. Retrain ~ Athletes Can, So Can You
78. Sex ~ And the Big Question
79. Snacks ~ Can Be Real Meals, Too!
80. The Family Story
81. What a Mess!
Chapter 11: Rules
82. Rules
83. School Rules
84. Bribe or Reward
85. "But, I forgot"
86. Junk Food or Healthy
Chapter 12: Self-Esteem
87. I'm Proud of You
88. Compliment or Notice
89. Self Assessment ~ Better Than Praise
90. Two Types of Praise
91. "It's Too Hard!"
Chapter 13: Separation Anxiety
92. Crying: Part 1 ~ The School
93. Crying: Part 2 ~ The Method
94. Crying: Part 3 ~ The Sadness
95. Crying: Part 4 ~ The Sitter


Chapter 14: Siblings
96. Siblings
97. Fighting Siblings
98. Rivalry & Siblings
99. Sharing ~ Older Children
100. Sharing ~ Young Children
101. Compromise ~ Crucial for Relationships
102. Two Children ~ One Easy, One Difficult
Chapter 15: Travel
103. Technology ~ All I Get Is Bad News
104. Maps ~ Where in the World Is Mom?
105. Planes ~ I'm Breaking My Own Rule
106. Re-Entry ~ A Game of Clue
107. Staying Connected ~ I Miss You
108. The End ~ Courage and Intuition
About the Author ..................................................................221 Index........................................................................................225
Specific Techniques ..............................................................228